“As a parent, it is important to know your child.”
Raising a black man in America today requires wise parenting and unwavering confidence that the stereotypes and misconceptions they are confronted with every day can be overcome. Single black women today have a choice. They can either sit around complaining about black men and why they don’t know how to love them or get on our grind and raise those sons.
The mothers have to do more than love them and tell them to be good. Being a single mom comes with many challenges, but this is a challenging task if your son is African American. Raising black boys requires special rules because they are more likely to face incarceration, death, and discrimination.
Today’s single moms are less likely to be married than ever before, and more women are having children out of wedlock. Growing up fatherless has been found to have alarming effects on boys, including a higher likelihood of drug use and incarceration.
About Dr. Sabrina Jackson
Dr. Sabrina Jackson is a professional speaker with over 25 years of experience speaking to various audiences. Specifically, a Master Trainer in True Colors, a model designed to help people work more collaboratively with those different from themselves. She has created a model for the Body of Christ entitled Essential Colors, which takes personality typing to another level. Sabrina Provide speaking/training services to corporations, small businesses, conferences, retreats, churches, schools, and non-profits. The ultimate goal is to impact the world with the Essential Colors Model.
What the colors represent
In 1978 founder Don Lowry further developed the personality concepts he had studied and was the first to apply the color metaphors of Orange, Gold, Green, and Blue to the four temperaments, coining this methodology: True Colors.
Orange, Gold, Green, and Blue are used to differentiate the four central True Colors personality styles. Each of us has a combination of the four True Colors that make up our personality spectrum, usually with one of the styles being the most dominant.
In the Bible
There are four Gospels in the Bible that represent the four colors. Gold represents the control and order of Christ. They love rules and order. Orange represents the risk-takers. The competitive personality. They are commanding in their personality. Green people are visionary, innovative and they necessarily don’t want to be around people. They like their time alone. That is Luke. Luke was written to the lawyers, doctors, and tax collectors.
Lastly is John. John is the blue book. Blues are compassionate. They value relationships more than anything.
The color scheme for different fathers
Sabrina explains that blue fathers are much more relational. They hug and want to find out how you are feeling. They are the types that ate sensitive. A gold parent is much more root-based and disciplinary. They are the ‘get the work done first. Then you can play.’ A green father is very intellectual. Because they are intellectual, they need to know whether you did your research before on what you want to do. Things have to make sense to them.
Orange fathers or parents are much more controlled by the seed. They are much more hands-on. They want to do things more spontaneously.
The twelve laws for single mothers raising black males
First law: Train up a child
Sabrina explains that it is your responsibility to train your children for good behavior and introduce them to God as a parent. It comes from the scripture Proverbs 4 and 6.
Law two: Discover your son’s passion and use it to your advantage
Sabrina narrates that you have to find out what your children love. They may not love what you love.
Law three: Never say the father is at fault
She explains that it is your fault that he is the father. It was your choice to be with that person. It is that person with you that could produce that child.
Law Four: Be an example of real-life
As a parent, you need to be an excellent example to your kids.
Law five: Demand and give respect
Sabrina explains that respect is a huge thing for boys. A lot of relationships break because of a lack of respect. Men need to feel respected, while women need to feel loved.
Law six: Teach what it means to be a black man in the society
She explains that we live in a society that is racist and disrespectful to black men.
Law seven: Infuse the concept of coachability, confidence, and compassion
They have to be open and take feedback.
Law eight: Make sure education is important to him
She explains that, in order to survive in this crooked world, you need to be educated.
Law nine: Use intellect to handle conflict
She explains that we will have conflicts as people, but you don’t have to be aggressive.
Law ten: Be a leader
Don’t allow your son to be carried with the wind or crowd.
Law eleven: Obtain a positive male support system
Sabrina explains that a black woman with a son needs a huge black man. There are things that your son will need that you should never provide.
Law twelve: Model and teach effective communication
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